So as our wonderful president, Pres. O, tries to pull us out of this recession
The rest of the world is dealing with a dating recession… especially the same sex folks.
Don’t it seem hard to find a damn man?
Where have all the good Daddy-like material gone?
All of em seem to be taken, married, or straight.
I feel like Little Mister Peep and I looking for all my peen.
Can someone help me find them?
I been putting out my resume HEAVY.
I been dressed for success on many of occasion.
Shit, I even stopped looking and worked on me.
But I do not know about anyone else for whatever reason in this big city, there is a man shortage going on.
I am starting to be really confused.
Since I do not go to the gay clubs,
that outlet is null and void.
I do not know anyone who does the “DL Invite Only” parties right now,
and more than likely they are just sex with 3 or more in a hallway closet anyway so check that off the list.
The gay websites that is/was/could be my outlet
has too many dudes on there playing games.
You think you meeting Person A and you meet Person F-ailure.
The fantasy of meeting dude on the train/public is just that – a fantasy.
So…. have all the potential draft picks dried up?
Are we doomed?
I remember back in the day,
I always had a date.
And not just anyone…. but fine ones.
Cars, jobs, and their own apartments.
Even though they all had their issues,
they took me out to nice restaurants and courted a brotha.
Paid for my dinner or bought me shit.
Wasn’t fem or queens – dudes who were just dudes.
I would log onto the gay websites and would always have something (or someone) to do.
But it seems like the game has changed.
Those websites have lost their luster.
Ever since BGC started becoming “The Gay My/Book“,
it is all about who is “hot” and who is “popular“.
Back in the day,
it was all about genuinely meeting dudes and meeting up to see whats good.
Dudes wanted to actually date.
Now, things are just whack city.
Like the hard financial times of our country,
it seems that way with dudes and the struggle it is to find one.
Ugh.
Well babe you only live once. Get out of that usual what you know and go see what you dont. If you can..think about relocating…if you dont like it..u can always come back but give it an honest effort and you shall receive!
Awwww hang in there Jamari. Your guy is out there…I always tell people to stop looking and let him find you. And I agree with Della, you might need a change of scenery.
And another thing…I think a lot of these guys are laying low because of financial woes n things like that cause a lot of these conceited typical gays still want a man that is dropping a lot of damn money. In these times he may not be as fortunate and probably things that if he tries to go after a new babylove, he wont get it because they will want things he cant give. Ive met a few really cute and nice typical guys that are looking for something real but scared to go after it because they dont want to be judged because they dont have all the money n the world n things like that yet. I always hear folks so now… “IM JUST TRYNA GET MYSELF TOGETHER FIRST. I GOT A LOT OF WORK TO DO” OR “IM A WORK IN PROGRESS RIGHT NOW IN THESE TIMES.”
*DELLA!
I like that word this afternoon Della.
But its not impossible babe. I really do think it depends on where you are and where you normally look. And PATIENCE. People kept preaching patience to me and I couldnt understand it. I would get so frustrated cause Im like that may never come!! I think a lot of us just arent patient at all when it comes to these things…..THATS THE MICROWAVE AGE FOR YA…..
Have you ever thought about it could be you area…sure you cant be everywhere in the world at once….but ever thought about a good chance of scenery for a while?
Just like these hard financial times, people have had to migrate to other places and start a new life there and it has looked up for a lot of them . Some moving for a job, some moving to start a new life in a whole new place. Never know what youll find. You may not meet a guy where ure at now on a train…doesnt mean you wont meet him in a library or KFC somewhere else. I realize your metro is big …but its not all thats out there. Just some things to think about. Desperate times call for desperate decisions and some turn out to be much much better than expected.
or as the song says
“EVERYTHING MUCH CHANGE!
NOTHING STAYS THE SAME!
EVERYONE WILL CHANGE!
NO ONE GOES UNCHANGED!
THE YOUNG BECOME THE OLD!
AND MYSTERIES DO UNFOLD!
BECAUSE THATS THE WAY OF TIME!
THERE ARE NOT MANY THINGS
IN THIS LIFE
WE CAN REALLY, REALLY BE SURE OF…….
EXCEPT…..
RAIN COMES FROM THE CLOUDS
AND THE SUN LIGHTS UP THE SKY
AND HUMMINGBIRDS DO FLY…….”
*DELLA!