the martyr.
urban dictionary describes it as…
someone who seeks sympathy on their social media pages.
the legit dictionary describes it as…
anyone who dies fighting for what they believe in.
jamari fox describes it as…
making a hero out of a victim,
whether deserved or not.

all the same thing really.
my definition represents my stance on outing folks.
i’ve gotten a ton of comments and emails for not outing anyone.
why should i?
unless the hyena or jackal…

spreading diseases
murdered someone in cold blood

i’m not outing anyone who is not out of the closet.
why?
oh,
because the dl wolf hurt my “wittle fweelings”?
boo fuckin hoo.
as a grown ass adult,
i knew what i was getting into when i opened that door.

when he fucked me,
i mentally and emotionally signed the “fuck boi” contract.
the thing about outing someone is…

THEY BECOME THE VICTIM

even if they ain’t shit,
they become my definition of a “martyr”.
you become the big bad gay.
the one that no one will trust ever again.

“Aww shit,
when insert your name here gets mad,
they gonna put my whole shit out there.”

the internet never forgets.
neither do people.
i refuse to let anyone get that on my watch.
anyone who has ever hurt me,
i’ve left them alone.
i’ve learned that even if you’re right,
they have many who will rush to their defense.
they’ll have a way to turn it against you.
it hurts to see them with others/get into another relationship.
it makes you feel like some kind of outcast.
i’ll tell you a secret:

HYENAS AND JACKALS DON’T CHANGE THEIR FUR OVERNIGHT

they’re gonna show their true colors to someone else.
trust me,
i’ve seen it time and time again.
once that happens,
they usually get their full helping of karma for their evil ways.
in turn:

THEY OUT THEMSELVES

…and that’s much worse than what i can ever do.

i won’t even have to lift a paw to do it.
this even applies to triflin “friends” and family members.
i say let them make you proud and go embarrass themselves.
you know they will.

lowkey: all you need to do is keep getting better and better.
glo up and continue making moves.
it sounds boring,
but the pay off is much better in the end.