I mess with dudes,
but I’m not out there with it.
I’m not gonna hold you but I’m really attracted to you.
If you are cool with me not being out there,
we can mess around.
I’m not looking for anything serious right now.
If that isn’t what you’re looking for,
I understand and that’s cool too.”
….or something like that.
it’s perfect tho.
that is how you do shit if you’re on the low.
it saves hurt feelings and potential outing because you put it all on the table.
i think miscommunication is what causes hurt feelings tbh.
you want a relationship; they wants to fuck.
why are we not on the same page?
now don’t get me wrong….