Remember that wolf (with the big ass) from my job you made a post about. Well, back when he invited to his 4th of July party that passed over month ago I didn’t end up going. I think I told you guys. Well since then nothing has popped off and my attraction towards him grows stronger every time we speak. At this point I’m a little heartbroken because his relationship status on Facebook indicated that’s he’s with some white chick (Ugh, Smh!). I feel as though I missed out by not cultivating a potential friendship that could have possibly lead to something more. Now he’s invited to go out with him (just us two!) for drinks next weekend because he’s free. Could this be my opportunity to make my move. Should the fact that he has a girlfriend now, should I back off from all romantic prospects involving us? I’d like some advice from you and the fellas’.
I love your site and have been a fan of yours now since about February of this year. I love the advice that you give and the responses that you readers make, its not the usual gay agenda type bullshit lol. Anyways I read your post “Don’t Start The Fire If You Can’t Take Your Hose And…” and it resonated with me. This article describes my life to the tee and I hate it. I am 20 about to turn 21 in August and I have no true success stories from my gay relationships and I have been in MANY since 17 and I have yet to have to actually have anal sex I have topped once. Though I believe I am a Hybrid sometimes I exhibit werewolf qualities and it really bothers me that the only people who I really like are my straight male friends that exhibit some sort of unusual interest in me. I mean like they put me on a pedestal over their girlfriend or mama type shit and I don’t pay them any attention. This “straight” guy once told me that he ‘hasn’t cried in a while and the only way he probably would is if me or his mama got shot’ WTF?? I literally just stared at him and didn’t respond
Yet this one guy who has gotten underneath my skin but there are so many red flags. I met him at FAMU while he was dating my female cousin (1st strike). Once he found out that I was gay we became extremely close for some reason and my cousin started to get suspicious and we ended up falling out over a petty argument. He continued to be cool with me while dating my cousin even going so far as to text me at 3 am just to ask me what I was doing. Long story short he and my cousin broke up and he and I fell out.(Strike Number 2)
Fast-forward a year and we reconciled our friendship after breaking up with my cousin he left FAMU, went back to his ex girlfriend and got her pregnant, and now has a gorgeous baby boy (Strike Number 3). Since he was working two jobs to take care of his son he decided that he wasn’t making enough so he enrolled in the army. I also left FAMU this May so there was a chance that we would never see each other again and he wanted to see me before he left and even though I didn’t understand why but I agreed to meet him at our mutual friends house when he got in to town.
We had established that he had somewhere to stay before he came up here. Yet he gets to Tallahassee and he ends up staying with me sleeping in the same… damn… bed with no shirt on and his muscles and tattoos showing. It took a lot of self-control for me to not lose my virginity to him that night. I tried to make him sleep in the couch the next night and he refused and play fought me ending up sleeping in my bed again every night until we left. After I moved back home he started to ignore my texts and I sent him a message asking him “what happened” and he read it instantly and didn’t respond, so I left it alone and pushed past the situation. He left for the Army 2 weeks ago and I cannot stop thinking about him and worrying about him if he’s alright and its scaring me because I NEVER felt this way about a nigga before no matter how rich or good looking I usually never paid a dude more than dust.
Plus I would never want to date him because even though me and the mutual friend aren’t cool anymore, I feel as though it would be fucked up since she was once a “friend”. What should I do in this situation?
i haven’t been able to sleep in almost two days …about 3weeks ago i took two of my coworkers to dinner in tribeca we were right by the door just to see all the attention coming and also enjoy our drinks..this wolf walks in fine as hell with his fat friend so i told the waiter to go tell him that i would like to hook him up with one of my coworker, who is a female. so we called him over. he liked her it seemed and she liked him. they exchange numbers and have been together since he goes to apt and she is telling me she is feeling him so much that they might even move in together. i am very happy for them, the wolf (we will change his name to Triflin’) is fine and she is fine too…5days ago being the sexy fox i am go online to a4a looking around i hit this guy up with the screen name rideonthelow. i unlock my pics he unlocks his no face but nice body..we chat I asked him his name he says “Triflin’“(the name of the wolf from the restaurant) he then tell me he is interested in me and would like to hit that..he sends me his number, Jamari swear on your blog, same wolf Triflin’ from the restaurant. OMG i don’t know what to do ..Should i tell her or not am scared and confused????? help this Fox!!!! the guy is a bisexual wolf he doesn’t even remember me from that night I don’t want to do that to my friend/co worker.
it is sooo strange that this would happen to me i mean i have the a4a messages ..same age same description and same telephone number so..but i don’t want ppl in my job finding out shit about me. my friend thinks she got a good thing going. she called me on sunday and it was all about him. I am afraid if i tell her she might tell people i work with about me..which i am not ready for emotionally ..the office i work @ is very business only….she can be loud at times ..but i have to tell her some how..am nervous ..i dont even want this nigga even dough i like bi dudes alot.
dear jamari fox. i love your site. i am 18 years old and new to this lifestyle. your site is so great and it has allowed me to get comfortable tremendously. the comment section helps me alot on days i hate myself for being gay. thank you. the other night i met this fine ass wolf online. i was scared but i invited him over to my house and we got it in. he fucked me really hard. i was a virgin but he did not know. now i have a hemorrhoid and it HURTS! i dont think i want to have sex again lol help! any advice!!!????