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Hi Jamari,

I just want to start and say that I really love your blog. I’ve subscribed to get alert from your site when you post and when there’s a comment. At school, at work (sometimes), I read it all the time, though I may not comment all the time. I’ve saved some of your tips (apps, personal hygiene, reviews etc) for further reference. You also give superb advice. As a result, this is why I’m here.

I work at a home improvement retailer and there is this guy that my department collaborate with often. We both work in different departments. He is 6 years my junior (I’m 27, he’s 21). Every time we interact, there is always some hint of interest on both our behalves. We always greet each other with a handshake but on one occasion, he did the index finger in the palm handshake.

I was surprised. The first occasion I played it off. The second time that it happened, I approached him and asked him if he knew what it meant. He said he did and that he and he did it to another guy at work who is straight (funny enough I managed to find out that he didn’t). So again I sorta brushed it off but looked at him with the side eye.

Recently, he began touching my goatee in jest while in conversation (sometimes when we’re alone and sometimes in the presence of coworkers and customers). One time he did that, I asked him if he is gay and he denied it. I told him that no self respecting “straight” guy would do the things he have done. Even after that convo, he still continues to do it and I just feign ignorance.

I’m not out there at work and I can count on one hand (of the 300+ people that work there) how many people at work know that I’m gay. So I ask, how do I go about letting this guy know that, 1) I’m also interested in him and 2) the best possible way to do so. I rather something when we are one-on-one. He says that he’s not gay but I find this hard to believe since his actions say otherwise (no straight guy I know would do the finger palm handshake with a guy not once but twice or touch the face of a guy in that way). Any advice from you and / or the foxhole, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

MY ANSWER…

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the day after an aftermath is usually the most interesting.
one the dust settles,
and some of the fire is put out,
thats when you really see whats going on with the people around you.
either you will have a good day or a really shitty one.
it also depends on you as well.
you can also be the cause of your own hell storms.
don’t act like you don’t get a fresh new battery in ya back after a scandal.
whenever there is a “racial issue” around the country,
its always funny how people act.
this goes especially for the snow animals…
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i’ve done retail before.
not my favorite at all.
whenever i worked retail,
i always use to hear about the madness that was “black friday”.
the time of year when usually sane people go completely mad for sales.
for whatever reason,
i would end up either getting fired or quitting before i could work it.
god’s rejection is god’s protection?
well today there was a mass email to volunteer at a retail store in new yawk.
this store is one of the big clients at my job.
they were looking for people who wanted to work on:

thanksgiving
black friday
christmas

paid.
i did need the extra money.
it also might be fun as well.
so i sent a reply email and said i wanted to do it…
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“you aren’t planning on leaving us,
are you?”

that was the call i got this afternoon.
i kinda started a wild fire,
but its also burning down and revealing just how appreciated i am.
i’m seeing that:

important people to cosign the fuck out my life.

something i always fought hard to achieve.
so another assistant i work with called me…
Continue reading “My Alliances Are Bigger Than Yours (Liar Liar)” →

so yesterday when i was going home,
one of the only mailroom wolves i’m actually cool with was on the elevator.
he was headed to the train as well so we decided to walk and talk.
i was telling him about everything that has been happening lately.
i was hoping he would let me know what the deal was.
so he said…
Continue reading “I Don’t Fit In (Never Have and Probably Never Will)” →

can i be honest about something?
without being judged?
i know you will judge me.
it’s not like i have any real shame.
i have spoken worse on these internet pages of mine.
ready?
here goes…
Continue reading “The Isolation of Jamari Fox (Honest)” →