so i’m sitting here,
watching celebrity apprentice,
and i get an alert that money was taken out my account.
i was now officially overdraft.
my account was drained.
my first thought was:

“what the hell????”

so then i get another message…
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FOXMAIL

Okay J…
First off, gotta say thanks for your site. You have no idea what it means to see someone existing and conquering that’s kinfolk.
I’m writing because I want your opinion on what I should do in the midst of an awkward office situation.
I work in an office where I’m one of four black people. I also happen to be the lowest on the salary ladder – entry level.
The other colored folk are senior staff pulling in well over six figures.
Recently, one of the [black] senior staff came by my desk and began making small talk about my college because I keep a small alumni banner in my area. #HBCUsStandUp
He tells me there’s a young man at his church who goes to my alma mater home from college for some random family reason, and goes on to say that he would love for all of us to do lunch.
So, his secretary sets it up and we meet a week later at a somewhat swanky restaurant I’d never been to across the street from our office.
After arriving late, he sits down, makes small talk, and casually mentions he left his wallet at home, could I cover it?
Not wanting to look a certain way in front of my young college brother, I casually nod yes meanwhile my mind is racing and my heart has stopped several times.

I budget my money down to the cent, literally. After paying my bills, (motherFUCK SallieMae) and pledging to not help family anymore and then helping family anyway, I am left with just enough to make it for the month, and sometimes not even that if a pair of shoes catches my eye.
I wound up putting the meal – $100 – on my credit card.
Now, the question is do I even approach him about repayment at all…
I feel like he set up the meeting and knew what this was gonna be. Sure, many men forget their wallets, but he knew he still had this meeting so why not cancel or postpone???
But then again, he’s a powerful man with many a connection and I don’t want him to pitch a bitch and hold a grudge if I ask for that money back … but clearly he knows I don’t do $100 lunches for 3 on me often, hell, at all, right?
But Lord,  that’s 10 edge-ups or 2 tanks of gas or a whole ass pair of nice shoes (2 if you know how to shop) …

Should I take an “L” on this one (in the name of networking – can’t front, I def benefited from having the opportunity to chat with him)?

MY ANSWER…

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brag so hard with ^that piece of paper.
so last night i did something stupid.
it actually lead to me having a really good conversation.
one that i’m still thinking about.
last week was “gone girl”.
this week is “late night conversations”.
i wanted to share with the foxhole…
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so i have an issue.
well its not really an issue,
but more-so a mind frame.
one i haven’t been focusing on enough.
i’ll tell you what it is…
Continue reading “I Like My Daddy Old and Wrinkled” →

today i read the details of robin william’s suicide.
he tried to slit his wrists but since that didn’t work,
he ended up hanging himself.
i nearly cried at my desk.
along with micheal brown’s murder,
it has been a very sad week when it comes to senseless death.
today the mailroom wolves were having a discussion about robin williams.
many of them said:

“why would he kill himself?
he had money…”

um.
say what?…
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what would you do if you had all that money in that bag?
no seriously?
what would you do?
well i want you to imagine you had all that money right now.
i’m serious silly.
imagine what it would feel like if you had all those 100s at your disposal.
doesn’t it feel good?
do you feel like a weight is lifted off your shoulder?
what would you buy?
where would you go?
would you even be in your state right now?
well i want you to keep that feeling.
you never know when you will get blessed.
kinda like what “simple pickup” did for these folks in this video…
Continue reading “Tip of the Day: Pay It Forward” →