we often think once we find someone then that’s it.
i guess it’s the optimist in us that we found “the one”.
the problem is when we thought this alleged one was all great…
…until the honeymoon phase wears off.
i was talking to someone today and they made me realize something…
who doesn’t want to be revealed,
was telling me how bored they’ve become with their partner.
“He literally does everything to please me.
He has literally conformed himself to like what I like.
There is no challenge or is he his own person.
he is the sweetest guy but there is no ‘oomph’.
Is that bad?”
i asked about the sex:
It’s not bad sex,
but it’s just there.
We don’t do anything exciting.”
i felt him.
i’ve seen folks in relationships literally bend over backward for their partners.
some like that; others don’t.
the honeymoon phase is always exciting,
but i find the real start of the relationship is after that wears off.
this is why you see these relationships end after a year or two.
I like being exciting but I’m not always exciting.
i have a mouth but sometimes i’ll stay quiet.
i can be moody or i can be lit.
i can make my own decisions and other times i need help.
i can be sexual af on some days and “don’t even touch me” on others.
i don’t try to be perfect.
I try to be me.
when i meet a wolf,
he needs to be his own man and meet me in the middle.
if i like chocolate and he hates chocolate,
i don’t need him suddenly liking chocolate to please me.
i want him to tell me why he hates chocolate so i can tell him why i hate vanilla.
actually i love vanilla.
so i think for some,
they are dead set on being the perfect partner.
after a while,
that gets hella boring and i don’t think folks realize that.