i had to go off on work wolf today.
it was some much needed tough love…
so work wolf has been feeling stuck in his current position.
he has been telling me he wants to move up in the company.
he also wants more money because he wants to get an apartment + car.
so i have been keeping him encouraged and motivated with his goals.
he always tells me how he appreciates me pushing him.
i been helping him be a better wolf.
he told me he was going to send me his resume the other day.
he wanted me to look over it before he sent it within the inter-office job net.
well one of the positions for a supervisor in another department popped up.
you know this fool sent his resume before sending it to me?
he sends me a text telling me he didn’t get the position.
um…
i immediately rolled my eyes,
but i told him to send me his resume just so i can look it over.
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…the fuck was he thinking?????
i had to wonder how he even got the job he has now.
random spelling errors
some words were in cap locks and others lower case
job descriptions made no sense
punctuation was all over the place
and my biggest pet peeve:
the resume was all over the place since he sent it as a word document
absolutely fuckin’ terrible.
i hit him up with a simple text:
“we need to talk later”
…and left it at that.
after work,
i saw him outside the building and i let him have it.
first of all i made him feel bad for sending it without letting me see it.
i was actually waiting to see it.
i also told him how disgusting his resume was.
“damn,” he said,
not trying to give me eye contact.
yes it was that damn bad.
i let him know how he has to stop doing shit without thinking.
he has a bad habit of doing this.
he told me how he quit smoking weed couple weeks ago,
but told me how he smoked with his boys the other day.
wtf?
i also told him how he stringing these vixens along,
leading them on,
and he isn’t really interested.
“look i tell them i just want to be friends.
they ain’t listening.”
“you aren’t being real with them.
you are being an asshole.”
he not interested in new vixen,
but seems to like the attention she gives him.
i don’t know.
its weird.
i told him if he wants to be taken seriously,
he needs to come correct.
you can’t run with the big boys acting like a little kid.
he has to grow up and take some responsibility.
then i hit him with:
“i’m really disappointed with you work wolf.”
he looked at me with the saddest eyes.
like he was dead ass about to cry.
“yeah you right”
i told him i’ll work on his resume before i left him to go home.
i mean shit.
i don’t see these hoes being tough with him.
who else gonna do it?
He does like the attention that is shown to him, be it from females or males. It’s a need that could cause trouble down the line. It’s good that you are helping him out. He needs that “guidance” because it’s obvious that he hasn’t had anyone looking out for him before. That was damn near career suicide sending out a resume with format and grammatical errors. LOL
Try not to get into the habit of doing too much for him though. He could become dependent on you for different things, and that can become stressful. Helpful, but not TOO helpful! You feel me?
And next time spit on his face *to get some DNA in him*
J did what needed to be done. Work wolf shared his goals and J offered to help him. And if he can’t take the tough love then kick rocks. I’ve updated my share of resumes for friends and family (ALOT) and you’d be surprised what shit people have on their resume. So far 90% of the ones I’ve updated GOT THE JOB! So he said what needed to be said and if a wolf is turned off so be it; he’ll be back because people respect being checked from the heart. Bravo!
I can’t stand a bad resume, which is why I have mine done and updated by a professional lol.
Giving him tough love about his impetuous decisions professionally and his lack of follow through is one thing, but going into his personal life seems like it’s going off a tangent a little.
Don’t worry though I like to “bully” people I like too. Make me sad so you can make them happy again lmaooo
Jamari, when was the first time you ever spoke to Work Wolf?
If you blogged about it plz refer me to the entry. Thank you.
I’ve been lurking with this story but I see the way this is going. You getting into his emotions and steadily making him dependent on you. You playing a good game of chess, Mister Fox. I’m impressed. Touché.
Well this most def proves WW is Str8 lol, because Str8 men stay doing dumb shit like this. I have worked around some good looking, sharp dressing Str8 dudes who emails and written work would make me cringe reading it. The funny thing though, when a dude knows you care about them, he is not going to be mad about you going off on him. I check my str8 homies all the time and they may get mad or pissed but they always come back around because they know you got their back. Thats one of the best things I love about Str8 dudes, they are not catty and dont act like females when you tell them about themselves unlike a lot of gay dudes who want to read and have the last word even when you tell them the truth. Even if nothing happens sexually, you two are establishing a deep bond and connection, I have a similar connection with 2 Str8 dudes in my life. One of them got mad at me for not reaching out to him when I needed a little money the other day, I just went without and was just talking in general about how broke I was and he went off. It made me smile inside that he really does care and is sincere.
SPOT ON tajan…well said!!!
Damn, he definitely falls in the category having the looks but no brain. Good lord, he probably ignored spell check popups and yes, how did he get his position?
You need to listen to your own advise! We all got some shit to work on, I guess its just easy to point out other people’s problems, and then brag about telling them off. If he had done that shit to you, you would be somewhere trying to through yourself off a bridge. Now that’s some tough love for your ass!!!!
^brag?
clearly you don’t know the definition.
if I was really this “person” you claim I am,
i wouldn’t have offered to help him or do his resume after.
i never claimed I was perfect anywhere.
clearly your idea of “tough love” is being a straight up asshole.
maybe you need to work out some shit of your own.
I admit I got a lot to work on, but I have a problem with the whole tough love thing. Let’s be real, I’ll say it because nobody else is going to be real with you. He’s using you! And you are so desperate that you allow him to take advantage of you. Im coming across harshly but I’ve been in the same position before and nothing is going to come out of it but hurt feeling. YOUR HURT FEELINGS!!!!! #toughlove
Yo Jamari. Newguy may be harsh but he is right. Dude is using you. I edit folks’ resumes too but I charge them for it. He needs to give you at least $50 for devoting an hour of your time to helping his sorry, non punctuating, non grammatical ass. Like I said above what are you getting out of this? What I see is a straight dude flirting with you to get your time and attention and stroke his ego. You say he strings women along. Sounds like you are in the same line.
LOL! Oh damn! Well that’s his own fault though lol.
Where can I find “a work wolf” like this? You modeling this man into “Your man” Yeeeeeessssssssss!
Chill Jay, (from what I’ve read) you reacted to the relationship dynamics you built in your head (the aspirational), not the current dynamics you have with work wolf.
As a Wolf, all those dramatics would turn me off completely.
^we are friends.
i speak to all the people who are my friends like this when they do dumb shit.
they do the same to me.
he did dumb shit by even sending a a resume like this for a supervisor position.
plus you gonna tell me you gonna send me the resume,
and then go off and do your own thing.
I should be turned off tbh.
Wow. Jamari, been reading your blog for a couple of years. Something about this post finally got me to comment. Despite your (unrequited) feelings for work wolf, you came through like the real mature voice of reason he needs right now. For the rest of the evening, I’m going to see Humphrey Bogart and Claude Raines walking off into the mist in “Casablanca” lol
^thanks crispy.
Real friends and people who really give a shit about you are going to keep it real no matter what. You did the right thing and he knows it because you were going in on him.
^he wants to be a man,
he needs to start acting like one.
i nearly brought up when he didn’t hit me up about the cookout to go fuck that chick.
Let that nigga have it. Sometimes it takes tough love and hurt feelings to shock people out of their bullshit. I know it cane from a hood place so i dont see any wrong on your part.
^i won’t lie.
I was a little nervous.
i didn’t want him to get turned off from me going off on him.
you know some people get offended quick.
I also need to realize it’s okay to call him out when he does dumb shit.
i felt I needed to do it today.
“he not interested in new vixen,
but seems to like the attention she gives him.”
J, do you think you’re in the same boat as new vixen?
^i thought about that.
he treats vixens different than he does me.
I could be wrong tho.
our friendship is 50/50.
Sounds like a relationship to me
Ummm seems like a lot of work on your part having to babysit brutha man. What are you getting out of this? Are you giving more than you are getting? If so you may need to pull back and devote your valuable time, your great talents, and winning personality to a man that actually has a chance of fulfilling you.