i want you to stop because you’re making things worse

Is it possible that chasing happiness is making us unhappy?

recently,
i had a revelation that feels like a total game changer.

ready for it?
cue the drum roll…

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when will we stop trying to get those who hurt us to acknowledge us?

i was posed with a thought after an intense therapy session today,
and even seeing clips of this mo’nique interview on club shay shay

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your house slippers are more comfortable than your track shoes

i woke up with something on my spirit that i wanted to share with the foxhole.
i went to bed with ari lennox and her beef with the “soul train awards” on my mind.
this was the first thought when i woke up.

We HAVE to stop chasing things/people/males that don’t want us

trust me,
i have been suffering from it but i had my “a-ha” moment last night…

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When The Beef Stops… And Goes On The Grill.

Screen Shot 2013-07-04 at 10.57.47 AM“you messin’ with the wrong bitch!”…

k michelle and rasheeda from l&hhatl finally had a much needed sit down.
according to k,
they squashed all their past drama on this clip from hip hollywood

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Is This Good Parenting? Or Good Ol Fashion “Someone Call CPS!”?

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an f-bi sent me this video and i know,
i just know,
there maybe some opinions on it.
father catches his daughter’s booty shakin’ on cam and well…

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“Giving A Fuck” Is Actually Fucking You Good and Hard.


when did you stop giving a fuck?

how many times were you hurt,
betrayed,
or even frustrated to stop caring about people’s feelings?
is it something you learned from an early age?
or, is it something you got over time?

not giving a fuck is not hurting people for no reason.
it also doesn’t mean going out and having raw sex.
it just means that you don’t give a fuck about stupid shit.
you are in full control of yourself and your emotions.
plus, you say what you need to say without regret.

the world can be a cruel place.
it can feel like a death trap when you are loyal and follow the rules.
as much as you try to be the “best” you can be,
other people who aren’t giving no even half a fuck are making it.
they are the ones with the careers,
everyone at their whim,
and life is a happier place.
they don’t look at other people because they are the only ones who matter.
they are going through life with no fucks and actually making great strides.
yet, you are where you are.
giving a fuck.
so i had to ask…

How many fucks do you give?

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