i remember it like it was yesterday.
i was home alone,
on 2016 thanksgiving
had a chicken in the oven,
and decided to binge “insecure” on hbo.
of course,
i was late after all the social media chatter about it.

BLOWN.
AWAY.

i became a hardcore stan by the end of that final scene in season 1.
you know what scene i’m talmbout.
every time i’m dealing with life shit,
issa rae knows exactly how i’m feeling.
sometimes i think i am like the character “issa”.
unlike my other friends,
it has taken me a minute to get my shit together with my insecurities,
life,
and the fuckbois i tend to fall for.
issa finally dropped the trailer for the final season of “insecure” and…

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there comes a point in every male’s life where the questions start rising.

“Why aren’t you married?”

“Why don’t you have kids?”

Why are you single?”

if you’re insecure or not comfortable within your own skin,
this pretty much defines the choices of your life.
if you are someone who is straight,
it adds this pressure to go out and find someone quickly.
so you’ll hook up with some vixen you don’t even like to shut people up.
regardless if you’re treating her like shit,
or cheating on her like it’s going outta style,
it just “looks” good for everyone else.
if you’re gay but curious/dl,
that can really make the paranoia of being labeled “gay” scream at you.
so you know what happens…

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lori harvey is a beautiful and young socialite.
she is the daughter of majorie harvey and the stepdaughter of steve harvey.
she is either admired or hated on.
isn’t that the norm for the bold and the beautiful?
what makes her a “thing” is her dating life.
she has been with a couple of major players in the black entertainment industry.

Trey Songz
Diddy
Future

this weekend,
she debuted the latest in her collection…

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this was my exact fact after the “insecure” season finale last night.
i think i babbled “wtf was that?” as well.
no seriously…

WTF was that?

when i look back at season 1 of that show,
you can tell the writing was a vastly different up until now.
i have a few thoughts…

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photo credit: hbo

dating is hard.
getting to know someone is hard.
it’s all hard.
you meet someone you’re interested in,
you talk for hours,
fuck for hours,
and then they just up and dip on you.
they could text you to ask if they can come through,
but they can’t use those same words to let you know they need a minute.
they can fuck a stranger they met raw,
but be scared to let you know they aren’t interested.
it’s really disrespectful,
but after watching “insecure” i had to wonder…

Are many people out here dating with severe mental health issues?

it was interesting to hear nathan and issa’s conversation…
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photo credit: hbo

watching last night’s episode of “insecure: lowkey trying” was triggering for me.
i didn’t to watch it last night because i was up til 7am,
sunday morning,
playing video games with my gaming friends.
so i was tired af and went to bed early last night.
i know this morning i was gonna watch it as soon as i got up.

“Wow.”

i ended up crying because i been in issa’s position before and it really fuckin’ sucked…
(light spoilers ahead)

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