Many of us don’t realize what a shift in power dynamics looks like.
One minute are on top and the next,
we are on the bottom and hurting because of it.

 i finally had my “a-ha” moment.
the foxhole taught me what that looks like.
so i’m gonna be 100 with you:

Many of my Foxholers are smashing/have smashed many of the males we lust after.
Allegedly.

from attentionistos to the “straight” personal trainers.
i’ve seen me the sex clips,
the “after sex” pictures,
and the “oh so he isn’t straight” messages.
allegedly.
there is a common theme when i font to some of ya’ll…

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i was fonting with one of my dear best friends today in texts.
she asked me:

that question always made me nervous.
i got caught up in trying to impress her.
i always saw her as having it together but i am always a mess.
so i always wanted to look like i was doing something even if i wasn’t.
i was always full of excuses because i would do that when i was younger.
so my answer to her question… Continue reading “why aren’t you being honest?” →

after that coach kellz entry,
i had two thoughts about something.

A – This Coach Kellz story has a slight clout-chasing vibe.

B – We need to talk about safety on socials.

the best way to be safe on socials is not to be on it.
since many of us choose to live our lives freely,
we need to be safe here doing so.
i thought of 9 things when it came to socials…

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Attraction isn’t always “lets have sex right now”.
It isn’t always friendly or open.
It can be cold,
distant,
and unfriendly.
It can be protection of being exposed.

i was reading something today on reddit.
it was about things people do that they think others aren’t peeping.
it’s like we know you are high af in church,
sir.
you aren’t fooling anyone.
this was two of the comments about being attracted to someone…

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when we are friends with someone,
we always see the “good” in them.
we ignore the truth because we want to show loyalty.
when they get caught up in some bs,
we don’t want to believe it because they are our friends.
we think about how good they were to US.
we don’t want to imagine one of our friends could be a monster.
two things can be true at the same time.

Someone can be a friend to us
Someone can be a monster to someone else

i’ve noticed it with some gay males over the years…

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i’m going to get down on my knees for this entry.
even when things don’t work out,
we don’t give ourselves grace for simply trying.
something inside urged me to give grace today.
here is my current truth…

Continue reading “testimony of a weathered fox” →