the above is very interesting.
there is a lot of truth in it…
if you play “the nice guy” role.
i imagine everyone else doesn’t let that phase them.

well i’m not accepting ^that.

so foxholer tony had an amazing idea.
he wanted me to do like a virtual foxhole book club of the book:

“no more mr. nice guy” by robert glover

Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O’Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the “Nice Guy Syndrome” trying too hard to please others while neglecting one’s own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It’s no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

we all read a chapter and then discuss it once i make the entry.

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it sounded like a wonderful idea!
i stopped reading it because i was distracted.
this will definitely keep me focused since the foxhole is joining.
so i ended up reading the first chapter today.
at the end of each chapter in this book,
there is an exercise for us to do.
they are called “break free”.
the first one was:

Breaking Free: Activity #1

Write down three possible safe people or groups that might be able to provide support for you in

your recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome.

If no one comes to mind, get out the telephone directory and look up counselors or support groups

in the phone book. Write down three names and phone numbers and call them when you finish

this chapter. If you are employed by a company with an Employee Assistance Program, this is

another resource. If you know someone who has been to therapy or a support group, ask them for

information. If you have access to the internet you can search for 12-step groups or support

groups.

i’ve decided the foxhole will be my support group.
yay!
so this is my answer to the “break free: activity 2”…
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god always gives you signs.
it’s up to you to catch them.

i can admit now,
i was a little slow on catching the signs with work wolf.
in my memories,
i see the good times we had.
that is what makes me miss him.
i am now remembering the shit he did that hurt my feelings.
“since you been gone”…
i’m seeing the bad side of things.
bad enough i have to see him everyday.

so today,
something lead me to pick up a book i was reading.
“no more mr. nice guy” by robert glover.
it was a really good read.
i still don’t know why i stopped in the first place.
so as i’m reading the book on my lunch break,
agreeing with a lot that was being said in the first chapter,
i read this…
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