Jamari, I’m a big fan of your blog. I don’t really comment, but I enjoy the posts. I’ve always read your ‘Ask Jamari’ posts and find myself thinking ‘How do these foxes get into these situations’? I finally came to term that I have my own issues.
Long story short, I’m a discreet fox and I’m struggling to accept that my relationship with my boyfriend/best friend of 6 years is over. This shit is eating me up inside.
We were involved with each other since Senior year of high school, and we’ve been best friends since middle school. I’m 23, so he’s been apart of my life for a long time. We started growing apart during my Sophomore year of college – we both planned on joining fraternities but we never expressed interest in the same organization. He wanted to share in that experience of pledging with him, but I was a legacy of a different organization. I chose to uphold that and pledge my organization of choice on 2009.
Pledging my organization was one of the best personal decisions I aside for myself, and it is an honor to join the ranks of the men in my family. I didn’t realize it would be the beginning of the end for us though. After my probate on campus and spending time with the chapter, he got really distant. We’ve never been a ‘out’ couple (few people know about us) so it was hard to acknowledge his feelings. He always seemed jealous of my experience with my brothers and it affected our relationship. It was worse for him watching me be greek because the organization he wanted to join was suspended until this past August.
He pledged his organization this past Fall Semester. I supported him the entire time, which is something he never did for me. I wanted him to be happy and those processes are difficult. My graduation was in December so I wanted to see him finish. He crossed two weeks before graduation and I was happy. He got something that he wanted so badly and I was proud of him for not quitting.
Jamari. He broke up with me the morning of graduation…two weeks later. He told me that he needed to be seen with women and enjoy the perks of being ‘Greek’. Something he didn’t want me to do after I finished pledging. After all the support that I showed him, he told me that I wasn’t good enough for him. This wasn’t the same guy that I was best friends with, this wasn’t the same guy that I called my boyfriend.
This was almost four months ago and I don’t know how to regroup. I’m working post-graduation so I don’t see him often…but I support events that my chapter throws so I run into him a LOT. I can’t avoid him, but I can’t address my feelings because he won’t allow me to. I really don’t know what to say or do. I can’t talk to my fraternity brothers about it because they don’t know about me or the history of our relationship. I really just needed to vent and advice moving forward. I apologize for this ridiculously long post and I hope you can give me your thoughts.
it is a sad day for colin kaepernick today, you know why… i’m sure they have to find ways of getting rid of chris culliver.
an f-bisent me a video of colin strollin’ with his frat.
i thought i’d share…
“I have a very reliable source who clubs and drinks with all of the athletes that come through Orlando. He was all over the Tiger Woods issue and knew what all happened with Tiger prior to it being released publicly.
“My buddy has a place in Orlando, Lake Nona to be exact, and he lives among some athletes that live there in Orlando. Needless to say he golfs, drinks, and parties with some of the best people in central Florida. So when word got to him while at the bar last night, he called me. Word got out while drinking with friends, that Rashard Lewis slept with Lebrons girl while visiting SouthBeach.”
“I have no idea [where the rumor came from], that’s what I’m trying to figure out. I went with my regular day of working out and I come home and I hear the same rumor. I can most definitely tell you that those rumors are 100% definitely false, they’re not true and I don’t know how it came up.”
” If anything they need to let the man play, he’s trying to win a championship. Putting all this negative stuff out about him ain’t doing anything but messing with his head. They need to leave the man alone, let him play. He’s in the NBA finals, let him go out there and win a NBA Championship. This is crazy, I can’t even believe this.”
“I’ve never met [Savannah] before. I actually spoke to his step father, the father that raised him to send a message to him that it’s a 100% false as well as he said on their side of the camp, they know it’s not true. They don’t believe it and told me not to worry about it all. I told him to go out there and play the game.[…]The NBA, we’re like a small sorority, we’re like brothers you don’t do that to a brother. That’s something you don’t do. I would never cross that line.” – Rashad Lewis comments about sleeping with Lebron’s girl/baby mama/girl he isn’t tryna marry but keep the kids coming.
One of my biggest fantasies if to fuck with a fraternity dude.
I am watching a favorite in gay entertainment, Stomp The Yard, and I must say I am overwhelmed in all this testosterone. I watched it before but for whatever reason today…. It must be the wine. Even though, I know someone who worked behind the scenes of this movie, who revealed some things about some of the dudes in/around the movie.
Let’s just say, I would sucking on cocksicles daily.
I mean, you guys saw the mountain scene!!! WHAT!!!! Columbus Short was not bad looking in this movie either.
The chest + the voice + Jamari Fox – Megan Good = NC-17 rating.
I have talked to two frat bois in my entire exsistence, but it was online. I didn’t exactly get to step on the meat. One was a Que and he was in Vegas. He was pretty damn fine and as D/L as he wanted to be. I knew he would have threw it pon’ me! He wanted to fuck with me while maintaining a relationship with his college sweetheart. I may have considered…..
The other was a Kappa….
(I have heard Kappas are the main ones who usually get down. Shout out to all the Kappas reading. U know how to find me.)
It was all good with my discreet Kappa, but he is still hooked up on his man. The window opened and we became friends.
But, I have a taste for some Frat meat. I need to meet someone who goes to a HBCU so I can come visit and they show me around. Or, I meet one who lives in The Concrete Forest and we can live out my fantasies.
Any of my readers ever messed with a frat boi?????????? If so, I would love to hear all the dirty details. Leave me a comment.