a journal prompt popped up on my phone asking:

“I define independence as…”

my answer?…

One thing I’ve learned about males from experience and The Foxhole…

it doesn’t matter if you’re ugly or fine,
fat or skinny,
muscular or average,
masc or fem,
tall or short,
broke or employed,
wild pimples or clean & clear face,
a cool kid or a dork,
wolves or foxes,
big bumsi or flat pancakes,
come from a well to do family or be raised in the hood…
when males want to saddle up and ride…

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I knew when I saw Hot Rod with PRK,
I felt something was off with him.

what they don’t tell you about being a porn star is…

Some folks aren’t as strong as they seem.

they don’t tell you about is the wear and tear on your body and soul.
they don’t tell you about the drugs to make it more bearable also.
many aren’t actually sex-positive or slut-strutting shame-free.
many are drowning in severe mental health issues.
like the entertainment industry,
you’re fed to the vultures once the porn industry is done with you.
a little Foxie sent me an update about hot rod,
a veteran in black gay porn.
someone spotted him at a train station in new yawk and…

If you’re going to play around with the DL,
you have to remember the golden rules in order to play the game successfully.

when he adds you,
doesn’t follow back,
but ya’ll end up connecting on the low,
never use your real account to speak to him on.
if he’s truly interested,
take it off whatever social media you met on.
you can find an app where you both can chat privately.
i like whatsapp.

if you insist on fonting on IG for instance,
use a burner with disappearing messages.

Sidebar: the next ios update with locked and hidden apps?
The DL game is about to change big time.

anyway,
it’s all about keeping things clean and your identity safe.
he’s keeping you in the closet; you’re keeping him in the closet.
so there were a lot of mistakes in this DL facebook drama i was sent.
that damn facebook.
i feel like lessons were learned for our dear,
ahmaud walker…

Don’t you ever get tired of dealing with people’s shady bullshit?

this morning,
i found myself headed dangerously close on the edge of sanity,
ready to go nuclear over someone’s latest nonsense.
someone i already know to be a certain way but hoping for a different outcome.
my bad.
in life,
we are going to face all kinds of abusive assholes.
i’ve always liked an asshole up front where i can see them.
i hate the ones who throws stones and hides behind a mask of innocence.
thankfully,
a dear friend pulled me back from the brink with a simple yet profound truth…

last night at the ‘24 bet awards,
it was all about getting black folks out there to vote.
almost every presentation; almost every commercial.
taraji even went off script at one point.
after that debate,
folks are scared.
even if folk’s think biden’s a zombie,
they really don’t want “the orange one” back.
after this news,
i think this is another reason why.
trump’s got the supreme court shielding him via msnbc…