I had to wonder:
Have you ever wondered if our regrets are just roadmaps leading us to where we need to be?

yesterday,
i had a heart-to-heart with karaoke about the ghosts of our past choices.
she’s doing well,
by the way.
anyhoo,
in therapy,
i’ve been wrestling with the regrets of what i tolerated back in the day.
people i should have cussed out or making better decisions.
then,
she dropped a bombshell of wisdom on me,
and i’m going to do my best to capture her words…

I’m not even gonna hold you but he has some big bunz.

sometimes,
you can’t always tell when a male has nice cheeks when he is wearing pants.
kendall washington from love island fame is one of those types.

we fonted about him ( x and that tail of his ) the other day.

i never got the point of outing someone over something petty,
but outing someone you supposedly loved and trusted?

That’s next-level betrayal.

kendall addressed his outing on his IG stories…

I had to wonder:
Have you ever wondered if being treated unfairly and underestimated might actually be a blessing in disguise?

there’s inspiration everywhere if we choose to open our eyes for it.
take nicole beharie,
my straight vixen crush.
remember her on “sleepy hollow“?
when she she was on there,
she was a beloved character but randomly,
she she got let go.
after that,
the rumor mill went wild.

Difficult to work with.
“Crazy”
I even heard she bit someone(?)

i never saw her defend herself and rightfully so.
when you know something isn’t true,
what’s there to say or font?

to john q. public,
it looked like behind-the-scenes racism.
her character was killed off and they replaced her with a white vixen.
the show ended up tanking shortly afterwards.
nicole went rogue after that which is one of my favorite things to do.
she did some indie projects but nothing major.
then,
like a plot twist in one of my favorite shows,
she was cast in season three of “the morning show”.
look at how God works…

If you’re going to play around with the DL,
you have to remember the golden rules in order to play the game successfully.

when he adds you,
doesn’t follow back,
but ya’ll end up connecting on the low,
never use your real account to speak to him on.
if he’s truly interested,
take it off whatever social media you met on.
you can find an app where you both can chat privately.
i like whatsapp.

if you insist on fonting on IG for instance,
use a burner with disappearing messages.

Sidebar: the next ios update with locked and hidden apps?
The DL game is about to change big time.

anyway,
it’s all about keeping things clean and your identity safe.
he’s keeping you in the closet; you’re keeping him in the closet.
so there were a lot of mistakes in this DL facebook drama i was sent.
that damn facebook.
i feel like lessons were learned for our dear,
ahmaud walker…

when i was a young millennial who was struggling with my sexuality,
i needed to hear “good luck, babe!” by chappell roan.

i heard it recently and it was like finding a lifeline.
she’s singing a Foxhole anthem of our young,
gay,
and dealing with the confused in love and lust.
the song tells the story of a lesbian who falls for another girl,
but that girl’s pretending to be straight.
“good luck, babe!” is chappell’s way of saying:

“You can’t suppress who you really are but I hope it all works out with the straights!
You’ll always fantasize about me but I hope things work out in your dead end relationship with home girl!”

with that gem of comfort and acceptance,
and because music is a solace for many of us during the good and bad,
i have to ask…

this is what happens when you have too many people suckin’ your penis over the years.
no one is telling him the truth it seems.
chris comes off either delusional or entitled.
he is always ranting about not being accepted in hollywood circles.
this is his latest:

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this is the truth that chris needs to read.
i think many of us who are chasing a certain crowd needs to hear it as well…