there comes a point in every male’s life where the questions start rising.
“Why aren’t you married?”
“Why don’t you have kids?”
Why are you single?”
if you’re insecure or not comfortable within your own skin,
this pretty much defines the choices of your life.
if you are someone who is straight,
it adds this pressure to go out and find someone quickly.
so you’ll hook up with some vixen you don’t even like to shut people up.
regardless if you’re treating her like shit,
or cheating on her like it’s going outta style,
it just “looks” good for everyone else.
if you’re gay but curious/dl,
that can really make the paranoia of being labeled “gay” scream at you.
so you know what happens…
they go and find someone,
anyone that’s interested in them,
and play “straight” for the cameras and center stage.
they marry this vixen,
have kids with her,
and somewhere down the line realize the charade ain’t working.
it’s never been working but married life tends to do that to ya.
this is why we have all these dl married males running around.
they start feeling suffocated so they go out and be free.
they finally want to live their true lives in their 60s and 70s.
they felt this pressure to live this “straight” life when they never wanted to.
So isn’t this other people’s fault?
people will pre-judge a male for being single after a certain time.
ya’ll make us feel bad for just “being”.
for some males,
they know when they want to settle down.
they don’t need others to remind them they’re single and childless.
we know when it’s time and who we want to do it with.
This is why post nut clarity is so important to us
our dicks let us know if we want to proceed with someone long-term,
or for one night.
don’t let society’s standards of when you’re supposed to “settle down” destroy you,
even if you’re straight.
settle down where YOU are ready.
that could be 30s,
or even 50s.
it could be never.
it does everyone a disservice to everyone involved.
Getting with a vixen,
playing the “straight” thing,
and ultimately leaving her for another male or “to be gay”?
and cheating on her with the actual vixens of your dreams?
taking your time and enjoying life until you feel you’re ready to make big steps?
i’d say the second choice is top tier.
fuck these people and their opinions.
they not gonna be there to help you stop being miserable.
they’ll be talking more shit if it doesn’t work out.
lowkey: i know so many miserable married people or parents who wish they would have waited.
it’s okay to just do you.
people will judge if you’re married or not.
people will talk about you because people like to talk.