Whats up Jamari?? As you know I have been a loyal member of the foxhole since the beginning. I check the site daily and you have definitely helped me through some situations. I’m kinda going through a situation with a guy and I just want your insight.
So I met this guy a few weeks ago and immediately felt something that I haven’t felt for anyone before. I really like him and he says he likes me too but doesn’t show that much attention. I have been entertaining other guys and he got mad about it. He basically doesn’t trust me and said we could only be friends. I laid everything out and told him exactly how I felt about him but he didn’t respond. I deleted his # and our text history and was never going to talk to him again.
He hit me up 2 days later and we had a good convo but he is sending mixed signals. Idk if I should pursue him or just move on. He is the perfect guy…100% my type but I don’t wanna look thirsty or like a fool.
What should I do!?
well thank ya love!
always glad to have you aboard.
now lets get into this one…
sometimes it starts out real subtle.
other time its practically in your face.
when it comes to dating,
its those key “fuck shyt” moments that we either ignore or never forget.
“if he cheated on someone else,
he may cheat on me.”
“if he is addicted to sex,
he may get bored wit me.”
“if he goes to the gym every morning at 4am,
he gonna expect me to join him.”
the last one is serious.
i probably turned over about a half and hour before that.
i think the answer is pretty clear.
he is sending mixed signals because he doesn’t trust you.
you already know this.
you were honest enough to tell him you entertain others.
he probably saw the smoke in the background in the near future.
you are single so you can pretty much do what you want.
maybe it is your vibe that he is picking up “not serious”?
sometimes we don’t realize we give off a scent that others pick up clearly.
the positive thing is he is confused.
well thats not really a positive thing,
but it means he is 50/50.
with the right “push”,
he could be motivated enough to fall.
it seems he wants to entertain you,
but he may just be scared you may hurt him.
that has happen to many of us before
keep it friendly for now.
you have to allow him to trust you.
building trust isn’t easy,
but the more comfortable someone is,
the easier it is for them to say “fuck it”.
i can’t tell you to stop entertaining others,
but if this is someone you want,
why not drop them and focus all your attention on him?
will you get with this person,
have a good 1 or 2 months,
and dip out once you are bored?
ask yourself those questions first.
sometimes the chase is more exciting than what we think is “the catch”.
i hope this helps.
keep me posted and thank you for your support!