You Are The Cousin I May Want To Screw

I love when my crib has one more voice other than my own.

As a single Fox, you can live a semi lonely life.
Sure, you can have a contact list full of friends and associates.
But I believe your home is your sanctuary and not everyone needs to be up in there.
You can also have various Wolves in and out giving you pipe when you need it.
But, as you are waiting for the right Wolf, you can come home to a lonely house 95% of the time.

I had my Cuz, who happens to be a Hybrid, stay with me for the weekend.
He is from another Forest and wanted to visit, since he had business to take care of.
He had no where to stay and I would not have it if he stayed at a hotel.
I had prior engagements to take care of, but we still had a chance to talk and catch up.
On his end, he ended up having a strange situation with a dude he met last year.
Left me wondering at the end of the story:

Uh, is that guy straight or not????

Cuz met a guy last year under the weirdest situation when he came to the Concrete Forest.
He was coming back from a business party at 3am down in Brooklyn.
He was alone in the train station and a young dude caught his eye as he walked in.
He took nothing of it…
…until dude asked him if the train already came.
Cuz told him nope and he sat next to him and started random conversation.
They talked about where they are both from, work info, and then “the question” came up:

“Are you gay?” dude asked.
“Why do you ask?” Cuz asked.
“Just asking. My best friend is gay and I am cool with it.”
“I’m more so bi.” my Cuz lied, for whatever reason.

Instead of a silent ride, he decided to show my cousin pictures of his girlfriend.
The guy asked to exchange info and then he got off at his stop.
While in my Cuz’s  hometown, they kept in contact regularly.
Talked about everything like his baby mama drama to what they bought at what store.
When my Cuz arrived this year, the dude wanted to chill.
Cuz met up with him and his new girlfriend, where he was introduced to her as his “cousin”.
The Vixen was bubbly and excited and wanted to know more about their “family”.
Thrown off guard, Cuz made up a story and she took the bait.
The dude introduced him to all his friends, and like with the Vixen, my Cuz was introduced as his “Cuz”.

He is straight, but that sounded so sketchy to me.
Why not introduce my Cuz as his “friend”?
When did he upgrade to “cousin from another mother”?
I asked my Cuz if he flirts with him and he says it is strictly platonic.
Even my Cuz is confused, but he cherishes the friendship and never crosses the line.

It made me wonder about straight Wolves and how they handle gay Foxes, Wolves, and Hybrids.
Sure, they are homophobic men out there who will throw up at the word, “gay”.
Some will shun you even if you are remotely different than what they are use too as a man.
But, the ones who accept us for who we are, we often question their motives deep down inside.
Are they feeling us? Are they being genuine? Or, will they strike when they get us alone?
So many questions it makes our tails spin…

So, when it comes to straight men and platonic friendship…

Why do we still find ourselves investigating?

13 thoughts on “You Are The Cousin I May Want To Screw

  1. He may just be the type of person who likes to fast-forward through things. U meet him one day, a week later you’re out at clubs together and spending large amounts of time just talking. Some men are like that. I’m sure we all have straight friends. I know i have about… 2 maybe 3. But its like, our friendship is strictly platonic. I’m treated more like a “sister” than anything else where they come to me with emotional and relationship issues that they don’t talk about amongst their species. Its tough sometimes to look at them and not wish they were homosexual because they’re pretty much husband material. But they’re very accepting of all types of people. I’ve been in situations with straight men where it feels like we’re in a relationship and i have to ask myself if he’s waiting for me to just make a move? But if he hasn’t made a move yet, I think its safe to say things are strictly platonic.

    I think the issue comes with those who display the type of behavior we deem as flirting like touching and being overtly sexual. It’s often mimic the behavior of boys who you know are interested but don’t know how to tell you. I’ve had to come to accept that there are straight men who seek out that brotherly type of bond with other men but are not interested in anything sexual. The wrestling and play-fighting, the long conversations on the phone, shopping together, eating together, napping in each other’s room. They have girlfriends of course, mostly for the sexual stuff, but their emotional bond tends to be more with men.

      • When there’s a big enough bed, a couch, or a comfortable floor in the room lol. Straight men have sleep over too. No cuddling or anything. I dont even cuddle with my judies but heads can rest on shoulders.

  2. We’re not used to straight men being comfortable around us, especially straight black men. I think when a man says he’s straight we should believe him until he says or out right does something to make us think othwerwise.

    He couldve told everyone that was his cousin so he wouldn’t have to explain how he met him and all that.

  3. It was probably easier to introduce him that way. Maybe he already said he’s his cousin to allay people’s questions or suspicions. Granted, I suggest being upfront, but describing how they met could seem sketchy.

    I know/have plenty of straight friends that are affectionate (to a point) with me & each other. IT depends on the level of friendship you have – we’re practically brothers, so it’s cool. They’re just open & accepting…as long as you know & respect them (i.e. no pushing up on them).

    I’ve even had a friend from a while back (totally straight) tell me if he was gay, I’d know cuz he would’ve made a play for me lol.

    So…yeah, it’s possible.

      • Well, maybe because I’m not a fox, I don’t look at dudes the same way y’all do. I mean, when it comes down to it, we’re all wolves of a sort lol. Some of my friends know, most don’t, none treat me differently. There was some questions & awkwardness initially, but once they saw I was still me (i.e. masculine & didn’t ‘flame out’), and I wasn’t tryna hit on them, it was cool. I found it’s usually not that deep anyway *shrug*

  4. YngBlkWolf :

    Well, maybe because I’m not a fox, I don’t look at dudes the same way y’all do. I mean, when it comes down to it, we’re all wolves of a sort lol. Some of my friends know, most don’t, none treat me differently. There was some questions & awkwardness initially, but once they saw I was still me (i.e. masculine & didn’t ‘flame out’), and I wasn’t tryna hit on them, it was cool. I found it’s usually not that deep anyway *shrug*

    i feel this is why I have a lot of straight dudes who are friends.
    but there is always that ONE who makes your radar go “beeeep… beeeeepp… beeeeep”
    i can crack jokes and act stupid with the best of em…
    i’m just real chill.
    wish i could find some masculine gay friends that are like the straight wolves i know.

  5. Why do we still find ourselves inevestigating? I don’t know…But I like this guy your cuzzin met,,,,Wait he is ur real cuzzin right?lol…Anyway good for him for being open minded. I understand why he introduces ur cuzzin as his…Because Black people are so caught up in gay,bisexual issues…And although open minded himself, he’s prob not open minded enough for the world to think he’s gay…And lets be honest if you’re a str8 man walking around with a gay man,,,Everyones going to assume you are too…No matter what. Even 2 guys hanging out spark gay rumors. Remember when a certain football player had a car accident and his passenger was male…All sorts of stories and scenarios and conclusions were made…With no proof or evidence…And even worst it’s gay men jumping to conclusions…So Why are we still investigating?

    Anyway,,,I like ur cuzzins cuzzin.lol…Seems like real cool peeps…Whos the guy in the pic? He’s adorable…

  6. I work out, love sports and act masculine and have many str8 homeboys because they feel comfortable and know they can be seen with me without too many questions, they never discuss the gay issue, but they have a idea, because they stop asking about girls Im fucking but always tell you about girls they are fucking. Some are hot, but after knowing them I dont see the fascination after a while, they do stupid shit and act more gayer than some flaming queens I know; especially how they approach taking care of their kids, and the whining and crying talking about their relationships. I also find these relationships empty after a while because I am never comfortable talking about my relationships to them because even though they are cool, I still feel the str8 judgemental eye from them and they never ask you about your life, I dont know if they just dont want to offend you are they really dont care and only want you for that emotional bond that they cant get with other men. Its just weird, but I can understand why this dude introduce him as his cousin, its just much easier especially dealing with the suspicious nature of most str8 black women.

    • tajan :
      I work out, love sports and act masculine and have many str8 homeboys because they feel comfortable and know they can be seen with me without too many questions, they never discuss the gay issue, but they have a idea, because they stop asking about girls Im fucking but always tell you about girls they are fucking. Some are hot, but after knowing them I dont see the fascination after a while, they do stupid shit and act more gayer than some flaming queens I know; especially how they approach taking care of their kids, and the whining and crying talking about their relationships. I also find these relationships empty after a while because I am never comfortable talking about my relationships to them because even though they are cool, I still feel the str8 judgemental eye from them and they never ask you about your life, I dont know if they just dont want to offend you are they really dont care and only want you for that emotional bond that they cant get with other men. Its just weird, but I can understand why this dude introduce him as his cousin, its just much easier especially dealing with the suspicious nature of most str8 black women.

      Maybe they don’t know how to approach asking you of if you’re even comfortable about talking about our life with them? From my experience when i just tell my str8 friends about whats going on with me they’re pretty open to hearing about it and respond.

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