so today while i was “kinda” working,
i was also talking to one of my favs in emails.
we were having a real discussion about an attentionisto wolf on social media.
he said this in one of our exchanges:
Getting to know him would most likely lead to major disappointment. I doubt he has a real world point of view about life or much experience outside of the gym or a party. I imagine him to be flaky and easily distracted. Someone to look at and that’s about it until the next big thing comes a long. And it will come. We seem to go through attention whores quicker than the straights do. We can get deep and talk about how we shouldn’t be giving attention to individuals who seek it out. How attention whores have largely been lighter skinned, masculine, tatted, and spend large amount of time in the gym. How we have created a new standard of beauty that has a lot of us comparing ourselves and subsequently feeling inadequate when we don’t measure up. I remember one guy on facebook asking why there are so many masculine, muscle bottoms and i told him its because tops have been sending out the consistent message of “No fats, no fems” so bottoms, who typically do not have their choice in men, had to conform.
I remember, prior to this boom in gym culture, when wolves needed “swag” more than anything. “He’s not cute but he had swag.” How he carried himself was more important than how low his body fat content was. If he had an athletic build, that was more of a bonus. But times have changes and we’ve already had these conversations.
every other community goes through this.
the way how i see it is this.
online doesn’t represent whats out in the real world a majority of the time.
if that was the case then these attentionisto wolves would actually be successful.
even celebrities for that matter.
they wouldn’t be online taking ODee pictures for likes.
they wouldn’t be “personal trainers” because they got pecs.
they wouldn’t be complaining about why they’re single.
they wouldn’t get “smashed and dashed” like the rest of us.
they aren’t perfect.
they are looking for love just like the “peasants” in their comments.
see real life is where it really matters.
ive gotten my share of sexy muscular masculine wolves before.
they knew i was a fox.
its in my scent.
they could sniff out what i wanted a mile away.
we get so wrapped up in these images,
or what ratchet gays say online,
that we second guess what we want.
i have hope my wolf is out there.
they are a couple masculine muscular foxes.
they ain’t me.
some i’m sure i’ve posted about too.
i will continue to stay optimistic that “he” or “they” is out there for me.
he is currently looking for me.
there are exceptions for the new rules.