Tag: discreet

i was having an interesting conversation with a wolf tonight.
the one i have a high key crush on.
he was telling me about his life and the gays he use to run with.
straight up he said…

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Sooo I’m clearly a fem bottom. I always have had a light voice it never really got any deeper. I’m young I enjoy and love sex. My throwback game strong I give some of the sloppiest bj’s ever I’m told by almost everyone I have sex with that I’m amazing and I do all the right things that they like and turn them on. But usually I deal with punk ass niggas that spread my business. I’m fem but I just want to establish some type of NSA with someone discreet or DL but then it turns out almost all the DL/discreet niggas get exposed on places like tumblr n shit and all they business out there.

What do I do?

A lot of them either aren’t attracted to me or think I’ll tell their business cause I’m fem. But all I really want is for them to come lay the pipe and get the fuck out. Im NOT one of those niggas that screams slay queen or slay Beyoncé but I enjoy lots of other “feminine” things. It makes it hard for me to find someone who I can casually fuck but also keep my business my business.

So what should I do?
Who should I try to establish a relationship like this with?

It’s hard to trust other queens out there because they are always involved in drama and outing each other.

MY ANSWER…

DEAR JAMARI FOX, "HELP!"

outing.
we don’t realize what outing someone can do.
it’s a powerful tool to destroy someone who is dl or even discreet.
it’s like we are still in high school.
well for most of us,
we are still there.
instead of putting someone’s number on the bathroom wall,
it’s spreading someone’s sexuality for the whole world to see.
outing is so dangerous,
and is a form of bullying but i had to ask the foxhole…

Why do some of us still do it?

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10155492_859473587397561_3404004787852095281_ni know i am and i won’t apologize for it.
so you know that entry i wrote ( x below )?

well i had a thought about it on my mind for a while.
i guess i’m glad that happened so i could release it.
so ever so often,
some “straight” attentionisto complains of all the male attention he gets.
he wants to have a moment and announce to the world:

“I’M STRAIGHT!
DEAD SERIOUS!”

“ALL THESE GAY PINEAPPLES NEED TO HOP OFF MY PAGE!”

“FUCK THAT GAY SHIT!”

…and so on and so forth.
well here is the issue with that.
some of these insta-attentionistos ain’t straight to begin with.
now not every wolf who takes off his shirt is for “us”,
but some of them can be.
some of the same ones barkin’ got questionable ass DMS.
others who are #mcm have a couple #mcm.
we are so use to the following
(NSFW,
18^,
AND “ONLY FOR THE CURIOUS STRAIGHTS”).

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Jamari I totally understand that you are a busy dude and you might not be able to respond or post my fox mail. First, I want to say I think work wolf is bi, I think if you give him enough time he is going to blow your back out. I think you already know what your getting yourself into that is why you have so many emotions about him, and you can’t help your feelings. I’m with you on whatever decision you decide with him, but I say go for it with him just continue to go at his pace, and maybe you should pretend like their is a dude that’s trying to get at you and see his response. So, when I wrote you earlier this year on how to talk to a wolf in the gym, you gave me some really great advice. Well heres the thing there is so much eye candy in the gym I go too, but there is a couple dudes who I really want. So one dude that eye fucked me for nearly a year and a half started speaking to me 3 weeks ago. So last week we had a short conversation and then towards the middle of the convo he says my girl, I was pissed but played it cool. The reason I am writing you is because I like masculine men especially with muscles lol but one thing I am finding out is that the ones I have talked to in the gym are all married or have girlfriends. I am discrete myself so going to a gay club or getting on gay sites is not my thing, so the gym is the only place I can meet men. When these dudes say my wife or my girl it does something to me, because they eye fuck or flirt with me then mention their wife or girl. It sends me to an array of emotions, and I just put them in my acquaintance list, and the result is me being lonely and sexless. There is this other fine dude that is always staring at me but in my head I know he is probably married with kids. So do you think I should pursue these men even if their with somebody, because me having morals and a conscious is not getting me any sex or a warm body to lay next to?

MY ANSWER…

DEAR JAMARI FOX, "HELP!"