well that reader has an update for us.
lets see what has happened since then…
well that reader has an update for us.
lets see what has happened since then…
So, I have a group of friends – there are 4 of us. I’ll be A and we’ll call the others B, C, and D. We’ve been thicker than thieves since the first day of college and now, since we graduated about 2 years ago and moved to different parts of the country, we still talk daily. We’re all gay but of course some of us were closer than others. C was my BFF and B & D were ol’ skool judys. Anywho, around junior year, I kinda figured that D was into me so I began asking him for favors – money, homework, errands, etc. I kept it under the guise of friendship but I knew he wanted more. I should mention that back then he just wasn’t my type or so I thought. Even though he was attractive, he was the heaviest and we never let him forget it – me more than the others. Toward the end of senior year, B & C got hip to my game(s) and called me out on my bullshit. They threatened to tell him if I didn’t so I confessed to D and things were never quite the same. In conversations, I could tell he only really fucked w/ B & C but tolerated me.
Fast forward to a week ago. All of our schedules and finances finally meshed and we all met up for a winter weekend on the east coast. D showed up and he showed up looking DELICIOUS. It was the first time I’d seen him in person since graduation. He was still the same size but everything that was pudge before was now solid. Physically, he’d changed a little but his spirit hadn’t. He was so humble and witty and kind. We caught up and he told me about his new job and a potential wolf and I smiled through my pain. When I saw him I realized I wanted him. B thinks I should leave D alone and let him be happy for now and see if he circles back. C thinks I’m a fool if I let him get away this time. I’m really torn. Me and D laughed, and we reminisced and made good ground last weekend in mending our relationship. As a friend, I want the best for him but I also want him to be mine because he could be the best for me.
What if I confess my feelings and he reads me my rights?
What would you do?
So here’s the thing. From April 2012 to Feb 2014, I was dating this younger wolf who I met at a party hosted by my best friend and I. Flashback – Back in Dec 2011 we hosted a hotel room party. Only a select few guys were invited and they each brought a guest. He was a guest of someone invited by my best friend. So the party is poppin’, drinks are flowing, I’m tipsy as hell and I stumble upon this tall, dark, handsome juvie tucked away in the bathroom of our hotel room. So I’m like “who are you, and what are you doing in my bathroom”…He responds, “this really isn’t my scene, but my friend doesn’t wanna leave, can I just chill here?” Turns out he was D/L and felt uncomfortable…Long story short, he never left the bathroom and neither did I, but it was just great conversation at the time. At this point I’m 23, he was 19. By the end of the night we had exchanged numbers and never lost contact, and by April of 2012 we were dating.
The difficult thing about our relationship was that it was long distance from the jump because I was away at college in the US, and only visited home (the Bahamas) about 4 or 5 time in the year. So I believe we never had a strong foundation to help us with the difficulties of a long distance relationship. Even so, I fell head over heels for this guy, and I believed he loved me too, but he was D/L so sometimes he tried to pond me off as just another male friend, and of course there were issues with females because he never got to a place where he accepted his sexuality. He dipped and dabbled between males and females, and my friends would always have some story about where he was, or who he was with. But besides that, the sex was sooooooo good. For a young wolf, he was dicking me down like no other. I had been with guys my age, or older in the past but no one was stroking like he was. He was funny, a man’s man, played basketball (as I cheered on the sidelines incognito, with the other basketball wives), and did all the typical shit that would make you fall in love with a TRADE.
Fast forward— after almost 2 years of ups and downs he dumps me on my birthday in Feb 2014. His excuse? He needs to find himself and I “deserve better” than him. I was so heart broken. Even at this point today, I’m still in love with this guy. I think about him every day, about the sex we had, and about how he made laugh. And even though he’s moved on and currently in relationship with a female that I know very well, I’m stuck in this place of confusion because I truly think we belong together, and I cant even begin to think about having sex with someone else.
I’ve been trying my hardest to move on but I cant. I’ve been pursued by other men since him, but I keep comparing them to him and they just don’t meet the mark. I’ve even had a Angela Basset in Waiting to Exhale moment, trying to get over this dude. I used to have really long dread locks, and cut them all off standing in a mirror. Why? Because he loved my hair, and I wanted to get rid of it just because he liked it. I’m battling the decision of contacting him to try and reconnect in some way, or at least have a conversation because I think I need closure to move on. We have not seen each other since the day we broke up, but we follow each other on social media. We no longer have each other’s phone number.
What should I do?
i feel like every wolf should eat booty.
i said it.
“eat booty” does sound a little barbaric.
so how about…
lick the fox hole?
is that better?
surprisingly there are wolves out here who are on a “bunz free” diet.
something about too much carb intake…
or some crazy excuse…
its like being in high school again.
we all had that wolf friend(s) who said this classic line:
i don’t eat no pussy!
yuck thats gross!
she still gotta give me head tho…”
he was on his knees properly cleaning out her vagina.
this depends on if the vixen was a dumb ass or not.
if the fox has prepared a clean platter for you to dig in…
well i got a f0xmail from one of my readers with this very discussion…
and “not for straight eyes”)…
Soo i went to a baller wolves house last night who i met on a hookup site…Craigslist! Anyway, it was just supposed to be a one night stand NSA or whatever. Let me just say, the moment I pulled in his neighborhood, I was HOOKED! House was laid, did I mention he was FINE as all get out (I love Dreadheads) and had alot of good shit going for himself. We talked. He asked questions. I answered and asked. We fucked…My God that man can eat a MEAN ass! He was a true gentlemen about Everything and I think he genuinely really liked me…(his words/actions). He would not go to sleeep till I made it home at 1am in the morning.
Maybe I’m over reading this,
but I’m Hooked!
How can this be? lol
im T from london
i always check your website for advices
you are very good at it
i have a problem
well a typical fox one lol
i have been active sexually as a fox for about 4 years but recently i had sex with a wolf (hot ! lol) he did some “deep stroke” and then i started bleeding (which we noticed when he pulled out because i didn’t feel any pain etc) the bleeding stopped it was not really bad just some reddish blood mixed with some hmmm inside fluids (sorry to be so graphic)
the thing is i don’t know if it’s a big issues because my behind is still fine,no pain or bleeding when im having my “me” time in the toilets lol, i wanted to know if i can see a doctor for that (which can be embarrassing) because i don’t know what lie to tell,
or should i wait for a couple of months to get it down there again ?
your advice and help will be good
cheers as british says
PS: we used protection
(this will have graphic content underneath.
so if you are whiny or “straight”,
i suggest you sit this one out)…
I’m an inexperienced wolf from Chi town. Been having trouble meeting other black dudes in my area that get down…but I’m attracted to bruthas that are pretty much the opposite of myself. I like them soft, nerdy type (but NOT fem) niggas that mostly into anime and ready comics. Well, low and behold I was run into this one cute lil’ dude in my local Target. Dude is so so adorable and I been tryna put the moves on him for a minute but I can’t really get a read on him. He could just be one of them geek-ish black dudes but not get down and if he got down do you think he would be into white wolves??? But I did lowkey snap a picture of him
(i feel like a stalker now SMH) so you guys could see if maybe it looks like he mess around.
What do you think?
And how should I approach him?
Hey Buddy:Low-key: I have know you for a while and love your website. Now I’m not the big advice wolf so I need your take on this for my friend.What would you do..Do you ever have the feeling that you know you are right but you continue want to be wrong about things…. ?So you meet this wolf who keeps saying he wants to hang out. You set up times move your schedule to accommodate. That day comes and nothing…You end up calling the wolf to see what happened. Okay things happen but it seems like everytime there is something, the wolf wants to see you as he works bicostally.When he is on your coast and you try to get that time then you are thrown between friends, brunch,and any and everything else. You also still have to check to see if your time is gonna happen… The wolf wants to be with you or so it’s said ….You go off because you just need to know what’s up…You think he and his New Yark X are done…Then in an exchange you find out the The wolf has another wolf who lives on the west coast which he never mentioned that he was still kicking it with between all the 750 texts and for your eyes only ass selfies. At This point,you feel some kinda way about the lies and deceit .The wolf tries to make it seem like you got the issue. He states he is not used to having pressure put on him about things….He states that things should be on his terms…. This same wolf wants to do an event business with you. He says he thinks your cool and should relax.What should you do short of going to jail or throwing a brick in that new BMW..As respect is key here but you are the crazy one for always seeking clarity.. Your concerns are always dismissed and you just supposed to just be cool with what ever?SignedI need to help my friend and he don’t want to call Kywan….
I’ve been a reader for about 2 years and have been a big fan of the site.I’m reaching out for advice with the relationship I’m in. I’m originally for Brooklyn NY grew up in Long-island moved to Atlanta for school (Georgia state) met a 28 year old wolf on jackd. I’m 20 we have really good chemistry we’ve been off and on a couple of times. Recently I moved in with him to save money on housing he has a townhouse in Atlanta and I thought why not so I moved in about a month ago and 2 weeks ago my boyfriend lost his job I work part time at w grocery store so I help out but it’s simply not enough my boyfriend tells me he puts up an add on jackd i instantly get upset and tell him I don’t think this is a good idea he says I don’t want to put an add on Craigslist because the overflow of responses would be to much. Ok so I’m out of town visiting family for the weekend and I call my boyfriend multiple times no answer so he calls me the next day and says sorry bae I was interviewing the new room mate I said why didn’t u tell me ohh u where in a mood. Okay cool he then tells me he’s a bottom light skin and sends me a picture of him I say ok he’s a bottom i don’t care why are u sending me a picture of him ohh just so u can kno what the new roomate looks like. He then says that he told him about me and showed him my Instagram and says this is my boyfriend. So I’m confused once again why are u showing this boy my Instagram now he says to my boyfriend am I the type to say something if he says hi to my boyfriend while he has his underwear on I then say wtf are u serious this is total disrespect unless he wants his ass whipped I don’t think this is a good idea my boyfriend says I’m over reacting we get into a huge argument he’s saying I need to get over myself I now want to go to this boys job and fight him. I feal like he can have him, Aswell as im looking to move out I need advice
Jamari please help
I just want to start and say that I really love your blog. I’ve subscribed to get alert from your site when you post and when there’s a comment. At school, at work (sometimes), I read it all the time, though I may not comment all the time. I’ve saved some of your tips (apps, personal hygiene, reviews etc) for further reference. You also give superb advice. As a result, this is why I’m here.
I work at a home improvement retailer and there is this guy that my department collaborate with often. We both work in different departments. He is 6 years my junior (I’m 27, he’s 21). Every time we interact, there is always some hint of interest on both our behalves. We always greet each other with a handshake but on one occasion, he did the index finger in the palm handshake.
I was surprised. The first occasion I played it off. The second time that it happened, I approached him and asked him if he knew what it meant. He said he did and that he and he did it to another guy at work who is straight (funny enough I managed to find out that he didn’t). So again I sorta brushed it off but looked at him with the side eye.
Recently, he began touching my goatee in jest while in conversation (sometimes when we’re alone and sometimes in the presence of coworkers and customers). One time he did that, I asked him if he is gay and he denied it. I told him that no self respecting “straight” guy would do the things he have done. Even after that convo, he still continues to do it and I just feign ignorance.
I’m not out there at work and I can count on one hand (of the 300+ people that work there) how many people at work know that I’m gay. So I ask, how do I go about letting this guy know that, 1) I’m also interested in him and 2) the best possible way to do so. I rather something when we are one-on-one. He says that he’s not gay but I find this hard to believe since his actions say otherwise (no straight guy I know would do the finger palm handshake with a guy not once but twice or touch the face of a guy in that way). Any advice from you and / or the foxhole, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
I’ve a recent reader of you’re blog for the past couple of months and I have to say that I’m completely in love with it and the work you’re doing!!! I wanted to thank for the inspiration you’ve been giving me and you’re fellow readers. I love how personal you are with us and how you let us in on both the highs and lows of your life. I’m currently in my second year of medical school and the last couple have really been difficult. I’ve been having a hard time this year because the workload is really intense,I have no money or free time, fighting depression and loneliness, and trying to date. I’ve been regretting doing school and have been considering quitting and doing something else. But I found you’re blog and I really connected with your struggles with work/career but still finding the good at the end of the day and how to look on the brighter/realer side of things. Its given me a lot more hope and reignited my fire and passion to get into my career and find my baller hybrid! I hope I didn’t type too much and I’m no words smith so I hope I didn’t bore you lol but I just had to thank you for the constant encouragement you put out!!!!! XOXOXO