Category: DEAR JAMARI FOX, “HELP!”

FOXMAIL

Jamari:

Thanks for the amazing job and advice that you have on your blog. I’m certain that I speak for the Foxhole, we love you and the best is yet to come.

Since being in the A (Atlanta for those who don’t know), I have had my share of hood wolves, pretty boy hybrids, and confused jackals.

I’m now feenin’ (not in love) with a moderately known model/attentisto who is always on Instagram and Snapchat. We are in the same age range (26-30) but his immaturity and use of social media is annoying. He looks like a younger version of a foxhole favorite of Oshea Russell but he is annoying because I know he is hoeing around with vixens and snow bunnies in a small college town.

Even when I discussed the nature and potential growth of our relationship, he said he prefers text than calls, he does not call or text me during the day or evening and have to follow him on Snapchat to know what is going on.

The time that we have known each other is about a month and always give new relationships a couple of months to flush out the residual relationships (wolves, foxes, vixens, and snow bunnies).

Since he has just finished school, he tells me he wants to move to Atlanta but I think he is a hobosexual (Someone who couch surfs and pretends like they love you and let you suck and fuck you occasionally ). I sense that from him but he also has a criminal record, constantly with vixens saying that they are friends and to build his brand, and I don’t think he has a job.

Jamari: Do I wait it out or move on to someone who will appreciate me and fuck me like crazy? There are a ton of IG wolves especially here in the South and this wolf/hybrid is pushing 30 so you think he would be more chill or less attentisto.

I don’t want to be his come up with my money and connection ( Like Mama Pope said on the season finale of Scandal…We build these black men up so they can go to basic bitches)

I’m really at a crossroads of being single or just fucking with no strings attached with wolves because I don’t want the pain.

I have been listening to the remix of Khalid’s Location and I think about him as related to that (Damn!)

Need your help!

MY ADVICE…

DEAR JAMARI FOX, "HELP!"

FOXMAIL

Hey Jamari, I’ve been following your blog for a few months now and it’s funny how you’re one of the few people I can talk to about this and we haven’t even met. Your aura is so awesome it can reach people through a computer screen. I’ve never had to deal with this kind of situation so I’m asking for help.

I think I’ve met my soulmate. Almost a year ago I became friends with this guy at a get together. I was advised by some of my other friends to avoid him because he seemed strange but he was pretty cool so I kept talking to him. Since then we’ve practically hit it off. Everything he likes, I like. Every idea I’ve had since I was a child he’s had. Talking to him was like looking into an opaque mirror. Since that day, he’s become my best friend. I’ve been to his house where we’ve sat up and talked about everything until dawn. I’ve never met anyone I’ve had this deep of a connection with. There’s even times we can tell what the other’s thinking. It’s even gotten to the point that we finish each other’s sentences. He’s the only person I feel like I can tell anything to or go to for anything but… I think we both have feelings for each other and we’re to afraid to take that step. He got drunk one night at a party and told everyone we should be together. Everyone had an omg look on their faces and when he realized what he said he tried to play it off. I was drunk too and I didn’t want to make a scene so I just laughed it off. A few days later two of our friends suggested we be together, back to back. Even they can see it, but it got awkwardly shrugged off. Since then I feel like he’s been in his feelings and idk if he even still feels the same. I’ve never dated a guy. It’s not often I can imagine spending my life with someone, let alone another guy but I’d be willing to try with him. It’s like we were made for each other. We’re both aces which would make things a lot easier for us. My feelings for him have grown so intense that it’s hard for me to control it now. There’s so many examples of him passively flirting with me that I’ve lost count but nothing was ever initiated. If I let him go it’s gonna haunt me for eternity but I’m afraid to tell him how I feel in case I’m blind and it’s one sided, but I feel like I’m gonna lose him if I don’t. I honestly don’t know.

What do you feel would be best?

MY ANSWER…

DEAR JAMARI FOX, "HELP!"

/the following entry is parental advisory and nsfw.
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FOXMAIL

Dear Jamari,
    I’m sick of the vixens winning, there I said it. Disclaimer I love women and very pro women this email is NOT ANTI WOMEN. For the last couple weeks, I have a lot on my mind to say about the wolves. First, there has been 5 wolves that you have posted on your blog over the years. From their instagram pages, one just got married, three are in new relationships with vixens, and the other who has been single forever is hinting that he is in love with someone. Now now just listen Jamari that might sound very immature and petty for me to write that, but I’ll tie it up later. A week in half ago I was at the grocery store and I seen a sexy wolf who was eye fucking me in the store, when I was walking out the store he was in his car and he drove by me as I was walking to my car he was eye fucking me the whole entire time when he was driving. Well today I seen the same wolf from the grocery store at the gym today, we exchanged a few glances with one another, but there was a vixen who was at the gym who he stopped and starting flirting with and they exchanged numbers. Also, my work wolf situation is getting more complicated, now I wrote about him a few weeks ago, but some things have changed since then. I kind of cut him off a little bit, because he does have a vixen now, but he has been extra touchy feeling with me in the last week. Like, really touching me, adjusting himself in front of me and staring me down, since he does have big muscles he loves to flex and do shit like grab his arms in front of me, but then gets on his phone with his girl and flirts with her in front of my face. I write all this to say I am very tired of the gay life and I hate writing that. I wish I could be straight or bi because it seems my life would be so much easier. The article you posted last week about being gay hit home for me, that it really got me thinking. I’m not trying to feel sorry for myself, just keeping it real. The gay life makes me think I am going crazy, I am also very sexually frustrated. I do love men, I love masculine men, I love men with muscles, that’s me and I’m not going to apologize for that. I’m just tired of being single and discrete with my sexuality. I do understand straight vixens, have their issues, but they can openly date these wolves, marry them, have their babies, and us gay men cannot compete with them so yeah that’s what I mean when I write the vixens are winning in MY eyes. You are more than welcome to share this with the foxhole. Much love and blessing to you Jamari.

MY ANSWER…

DEAR JAMARI FOX, "HELP!"

FOXMAIL

Hey Jamari,

I’m a dl bisexual guy, although I’ve mostly been focusing on guys lately because I fell in love with one. He’s your typical alpha type and he’s in the military. Total womanizer and extremely good looking. We grew up hating each otheralways fighting and arguing. Then as we moved into adulthood (around 18 years old), we became frienemies, then eventually just friends. Eventually, something happened and we fell in love. He would call every morning like clockwork as soon as he opened his eyes, then he would call every night right before bed, not to mention an afternoon call. We never made love (although he came to my house one time and made it clear that he wanted us to fuck. I just wasn’t ready for that step with a man). He told me that he’s in love with me after I finally admitted my feelings.

I was very difficult. Poor guy was like the man in a man/woman relationship with me. I guess it’s because we grew up arguing so I never really grew out of it. Anyway, we grew apart and he stopped talking to me. Then he started talking to me again and then I stopped talking to him. It’s a cycle. Then he started rewriting out history and acting like we were never in love. I thought I was crazy until i called him out one day and asked him if he was in love with me. He told me the following:

“If you know a fish is going to swim down a river, would you still ask if the fish is going to swim down the river?” But then he told me I can’t have it my way and that he’s not able to give me what I want. After that he completely erased our history from his mind and he went back to dating women and being in relationships with them. I guess I kind of know why he pushed me away…plus his family is church-going and homophobic (plus the military thing). I just want to know your thoughts.

I’m only asking because this has been going on for 10 years and I am so heartbroken. The ordeal changed me for the worse. I’m not the same person I was and now I sleep around with my just trying to fill a void. I think he’s my one great love.

MY ANSWER…

A LIL TASTE OF JAMARI DEAR JAMARI FOX, "HELP!"